Woman Whose Mother Died Giving Birth To Her Told She Can’t Celebrate Her Own Birthday

A young woman claims her family has stopped her from marking or celebrating her birthday for the entirety of her life, and reacted furiously when she threw an 18th birthday party for her friends.

Tragically, the 18-year-old’s mother died while giving birth to her, and her birthday has always been treated as a time of great sadness and mourning.

The anonymous teen describes her entire childhood as being overshadowed by her family’s grieving which she herself was “not allowed to be involved in.”

Her older brothers had been six and eight at the time of their mother’s death, and even as adults, she says their father will throw them both huge birthday parties, paying for everything out of his own pocket.

Meanwhile, she claims her own grief has been brushed aside by family members, with her father telling her she has no right to miss the mother she’d “never met.”

For her milestone birthday, she decided to head out to see a film and enjoy some drinks with pals regardless of her family’s insistence on the day going uncelebrated.

Soon after she uploaded pics to social media, she was inundated with messages from her family, guilt-tripping her for arranging what was her very first birthday party.

Taking to Reddit, the woman – who goes by the username u/Throwawaydad1112 – wrote: “My birthday was not allowed to be celebrated or talked about under any circumstances and I never got anything for them.

“When I got older and understood that most people had a mum and I didn’t it upset me a lot, every time I cried about missing her my dad would tell me that I had never met her and that I didn’t deserve to miss her.”

She added: “Now this is where I am probably the a******. This year, I turned 18 and decided that I would have a birthday party for myself which was just some drinks with friends and going to see a movie.

“I posted about this on social media and was instantly flooded with messages from my family telling me that I shouldn’t celebrate my birthday and that all my family was at my mum’s grave and that I should’ve been there (this is something I’ve been told repeatedly I’m not allowed to visit).”

Turning to fellow Reddit users, the saddened teen has asked whether she had done anything wrong by disobeying her family’s wishes.

A number of people were quick to reassure her she had every right to celebrate the day she was born, and that she’d been treated unfairly.

One person said: “Sweetie, this is so genuinely heartbreaking to hear. You can celebrate your birthday and I’m sure your mum would be wanting you to. You should also be allowed to miss her and visit her grave.

“If you ever want a surrogate older sister to celebrate your birthday I’m from the UK and am great with birthdays.”