“Can you imagine being in a floor length gown at 1pm sipping fruit juice and eating some potluck cookies” a Reddit user wrote
A couple’s wedding guidelines are causing a stir among some of their guests.
In a recent Reddit post from the popular Subreddit r/weddingshaming, a user claims that a friend was invited to a wedding that requested guests wear black tie-attire, but to also bring a dessert to contribute.
The wedding, which will take place on an October afternoon from 3 p.m. to 8 p.m. in a “northern state where it isn’t unusual to see snow that time of year,” the couple will be serving only “heavy hors d’oeuvres” as the meal, the user noted.
Additionally, there would be only non-alcoholic beverages served including “coffee, tea and fruit-infused water” served at the event. “It’s expensive and we’re not drinkers,” the couple wrote, as per a screenshot from their website provided by the Redditor.
While the user said they understand making economic decisions while planning a wedding, this seemed to be a bit much. “Their families aren’t hurting for cash, but per my friend, the bride and groom are both known for being kind of greedy, so she’s not terribly surprised,” the post read.
However, the Redditor claimed the dessert situation was even worse. “The icing on the cake (lol) is that, apparently, this is BYOD,” they wrote.
“This ‘between semi-formal and black tie’ wedding is asking people to bring their own desserts to share,” they elaborated. “The best part? A $1200 TV on their gift registry.”
The user concluded their post with a facetious comment on what guests could expect at the wedding. “We won’t feed you, you have to bring your own dessert, and we hope you’re okay sucking down fruit-infused water…but can you pretty please buy a TV worth four figures for us??”
The Reddit community was quick to share their thoughts on the impending nuptials.
Many were taken back by requesting guests to bring their own dessert. “like it’s not enough effort to get dressed and styled and arranging travel and all that now you want me to bake cookies as well??” one person wrote.
Another chimed in: “Can you imagine being in a [floor-length] gown at 1pm sipping fruit juice and eating some potluck cookies.”
One user wrote about a wedding they went to that also offered heavy appetizers as the meal. “The food was gone quickly. Everyone left hungry, despite the seven cakes they had. And the hotel’s restaurant’s kitchen was closed by the time we got back,” they said.
“Why do people do this. Either feed your guests or don’t have a party.”
“It’s rude not to accommodate the majority of [guests], then also ask to contribute,” another noted.
A third person called feeding guests a “priority. “If you [don’t] have the money, and you have a simple wedding in your backyard with [homemade] food no one would [begrudge] you the food options as long as they have enough because they can see you are having a modest wedding.”
“But if you have a black tie event you need to pay for food and drinks sorry.”
Others were offended by the comment about having a bar being too costly for the bride and groom. “I understand a bar is expensive but when the invite website plainly makes a complaint about expenses, on top of all this other nonsense, it just comes off as tacky,” one user said.
“Idk why the ‘fruit infused water’ is annoying me so much lol,” another said. “I respect non-drinkers not wanting a boozy wedding, but this just seems so half assed.”
A third added: “Mentioning explicitly the lack of alcohol and that the hosts don’t want to pay for it seems tacky.”
Perhaps the most scathing comment, which summed up how fellow Redditors felt was: “I’ve had work meetings that sound better than this.”